Don’t Believe Everything You Hear

What if someone were to tell you that five years from now, you would be happy, successful, living your dreams and loving every minute of it? Where are you at this very moment–would you believe it? Would you say, “I know, I can’t wait!” Or, would you say, “Ugh, I don’t think so. No one believes in me. Everyone says I’m worthless and that I won’t amount to anything. Maybe they’re right.”

Let me tell you something. Those people that say you’re worthless? They’re wrong. I can tell you from my own experience that those people that put you down are only doing it to make themselves feel better. They are so hurt on the inside, that they can’t help but make others feel bad. They don’t want to see someone soar to the top, be happy or successful. They want to bring them down to their level. Don’t let them! I promise you, you WILL succeed and you WILL be happy! All you have to do is believe in yourself, love yourself, and push yourself.

When I was in grade school I heard this all the time: “You don’t count. You’re not going to do anything with your life, because you’re stupid and a loser.” You don’t count. Can you imagine being told that when you’re ten years old, on a daily basis? There came a time when even I started to believe it. I thought, “If they are laughing at me, beating me up, spitting on me…then I probably don’t count. I don’t have the right to succeed.” Boy, was I wrong! It took my a long time to come into my own and realize that not only do I count, but I am worthy of success and being happy! I had to take control of my feelings and my own life. I had to block out people who would try to belittle me (because, trust me, there will ALWAYS be people–adults, too–who will try to belittle you). Block them out! You don’t have to be mean about it, just simply say, “you know what? I’m living my own life, I don’t have time to be talked to this way.”

You also have to learn to stand up for yourself. I’m not talking about starting fights, because that will only add to the problem. But, stand up and tell them that you are not going to stand for this behavior. You demand respect and you deserve it. It took me a long time to learn this one, as well. People would always try to discount my feelings because I am a nice person. They would say, “Oh, she doesn’t care. She’ll get over it.” Guess what? I may be nice, but I am also extremely sensitive so no, I won’t just “get over it.”

You deserve success in your life, you deserve to have all of your dreams come true. Don’t let a single person tell you otherwise! Don’t let a single person take any of that away from you! You are worth it and you MATTER!!

Xoxo,

Aly

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I Am Good Enough

This title seems like it would be easy to write. We should all feel like we are good enough, right? It should just come as natural to say “I am good enough” as it is to breathe. But, for those who have been bullied, the easiest thing to say is just the opposite. We get broken down so much that not only do we feel that we are not good enough, but we feel like we will never heal or that life just isn’t worth living anymore. THIS COULDN’T BE FURTHER FROM THE TRUTH!

Somewhere out there, someone is waiting to meet you. Someone has been praying for you to come into their lives. You have something to offer them that no one else can. In fact, you have something to offer the world that no one else can. Don’t deprive the world of your gifts. You are valued too much to take your own life. This world needs you. Your family needs you. YOU need you. And you know what? I need you 🙂

You are worthy, gifted, talented, beautiful and you matter. Don’t you EVER forget that, you got it?!

Love yourself.

Xoxo,
Aly