This One’s for the Girls! (and the boys who support them)

Happy New Year, friends! Did y’all have a great holiday season? Raise of hands, how many of you have your decorations up yet? If you could see me, my hand would be raised. And, how many of you set some awesome New Year’s Intentions? I don’t know about you, but I just love New Year’s. (well, let’s be honest, I love ALL holidays. The more decorations, the better!) But, New Year’s just has a certain feel to it—it’s like a sparkly new world, full of new possibilities, a clean slate, a chance to make some goals. One of my intentions (I like calling them that versus resolutions) is to be a more positive light in the world and to use my voice more. That’s where this post is going…

Girls, did you see Oprah’s acceptance speech at the Golden Globes last weekend? I mean, holy crap! She’s always been a hero of mine, and that speech just blew me away. I will admit, I was crying. If you haven’t seen it, hit up Youtube, grab a tissue and get ready to be inspired and encouraged. As I’m sure you have all heard (and if you haven’t, where have you been?!) about the #metoo and the Time’s Up Now campaign. Let me just say—the Time’s Up Now campaign is pretty incredible. Such amazingly strong, courageous women using their voice to make a huge, positive and much needed change in this world and I am just in awe of them all. Some people will argue that this is just a movement or a trend, and people are just jumping on the bandwagon to be “cool”. I totally beg to differ. This is an issue that has been going on since the beginning of time-women being treated unfairly, horribly, and have been told to just deal with it and stay quiet…and thanks to some brave women who have come forward, it’s finally being addressed. Women being catcalled, touched, grabbed, raped, attacked, getting paid way less than what a man is paid—enough is enough. I mean, really. Enough.

This isn’t just an entertainment industry issue, this is an every single industry issue. It doesn’t matter where you live, what you do for a living, who you are, what you look like—everyone deserves to be treated equally and respectfully. We are all equal. No one is better than anyone else; I don’t care what your title is, we are all human and we all came from the same place and we all bleed the same. I worked in the music industry for years, and I’ve had my fair share of disgusting and down-right awful things happen to me. I was told to just stay quiet about it, or I would lose everything. I was young, naïve, scared and I sacrificed a lot to be able to live out my dream. It was heartbreaking to see something I loved so much to the point where I made it who I was, turn out to be something so corrupt. (I’m not saying it was all bad, because it certainly wasn’t—there were a lot of things I did love. But, you know the saying—a couple bad apples can ruin the batch—or something like that.) I won’t go into details here about it, but my stories are just a tiny fraction of what other women deal with all the time. And we shouldn’t have to “deal with it” anymore. And I’m also absolutely not saying that all men are bad, either. Absolutely, 100% not! I have men in my life that are amazing, beautiful and know how to respect and support women. To those men, and men around the world, I say a great big THANK YOU! Women—this is about using your voice and for this treatment to not be tolerated anymore. We have seen in the last few months that when those brave women came forward with their stories, there was a price to pay for those that were accused. Those women gave voice to all women who have stories, but have been too afraid to say something. To those women—I say a big thank you. You have given us all a voice, and inspired us to use them. If you can do it, we can do it!

One of the many quotes I love is: “Leave this world a little better than you found it.” I’ve always tried to live by that, and I think we are on a great path right now! If we can use our voices (women AND men) to stand up for ourselves, and not tolerate inappropriate behavior, just think of how we can leave this world for the next generation and the generation after that. Equality. That’s all we want. That should be all anyone wants. No amount of power, position, title, amount of money should ever come before that…well, it should never come into play in any regard, in my opinion. There are a lot of groups out there that are focused on helping women find their voice. Google it, and you will find some in your area! I totally encourage you to join one, go to some events, get connected, get that support, get encouragement to go after your dreams-big or small. Just do it!

No more being scared. No more being hushed. No more staying small so others can be “bigger”. No more shaming. No more wage gap. No more “dealing with it.” No more pain. No more not being heard. No more suffering through it silently. We need to be here for one another. We need to let each other (women and men) know that it’s necessary to speak up. We need to create a safe place for that to happen and to send the message that it’s not ok to treat anyone with anything less than respect and decency. Girls, we are on the right track. Keep using those voices for the good. Keep making yourself proud. We were all created the same, and that’s how we should treat one another. Equal. Keep going. Keep fighting. Keep loving yourself enough to not put up with any kind of treatment you don’t want or like. Shout it. Scream it at the top of your lungs, if you want to! I’m here for you. Send me a message, I would love to hear from you! To the men who support us: thank you! Let’s just all support each other, k?