My name is Alyssa (pronounced Alicia), and I think no matter where I live, I will always call Minnesota home. (I am currently living in Nashville, Tenn.) I love my family, fishing, hockey, ballet, glitter, and, of course, Ryan Gosling. By now, you’re probably wondering why am I here, on this website? What’s the point behind this? Well, it’s simple: I want to put a stop to bullying—school bullying, cyber bullying, workplace bullying, all of it. It has to come to an end, and I am here to help make that happen.
I was bullied every single day from fifth grade up until my eighth-grade graduation. Some days were worse than others, but they all left scars. Some scars I didn’t even know were there until recently, and some I’ve been trying to cover up since the day they happened. It doesn’t matter whom you are or where you come from, making someone feel inadequate and small to the point where he or she wants to take his or her own life is never OK. Never. I will be talking about my experiences, my efforts to stop bullying, and offer advice and, most of all, hope. I am by no means an expert, and I will never pretend to be. What I will do, however, is to let you know that you are not alone. I know it may feel like you are at times when hurtful words are being thrown at you, and on days when all you want to do is hide in your closet. (Yes, I have done that; like my parents wouldn’t realize they were missing a child.) You are never alone. I never really had friends in school . . . in fact, they all used to beat me up (literally) and tell me I was worthless. So, I just thought that was the norm, and I learned how to be friends with just myself. (My parents became my best friends.) I convinced myself I didn’t need anyone else. Now that I have REAL friends—friends who accept me for who I am and nothing more or less—well, I’m just not used to that. I am always on edge, thinking that I will lose them eventually. It’s hard for me to be myself sometimes.
Whether you are the one bullying, or the one being bullied, we all need each other. I’m here to listen and to show you that this is not the end of your story. You have your whole life in front of you and you are going to do great things with it. My hope is that you believe that. My prayer is that bullying will be stopped, and I believe that if we all come together, we can make it stop. I know I won’t stop trying to make this a reality.
If you’re asking me how I got to this place, I’ll tell you. I was, like I said, bullied relentlessly for years and I could never understand why. I kept wondering why God would put me through such pain and torture. (I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason.) I finally realized that He put me through that to give me the strength and wisdom to use my experiences to help someone else. And that is what I wish to do. If I can help just one child, save just one life, my mission will be complete. Of course, I want to put an end to this completely, but if just one child is saved by my actions and words, then I will have fulfilled my purpose. So, this is for the boy who is afraid to get on the bus for fear of getting beat up; to the girl who is afraid of recess because she will have to either play by herself again or have names screamed at her. This is for you. I know what you’re going through, and I promise you two things: (1) I am here; (2) it DOES get better. If you believe only one thing from this blog, please believe that it will get better. That is one promise I can stand by. I am (as well as many others) living proof that it does. You will overcome this and be a stronger, wiser person. So, let’s talk! Introduce yourselves, and let’s all be friends.
-This is a picture of me with my parents back in the 80’s!