Many people define bullying as a classmate making fun, or pushing around, a classmate smaller than them. Other people think bullying is just a right of passage as a kid. Not true. It’s important that we know what is bullying, cyberbullying, and what we can do to help prevent it.
What is bullying?
-It is any unwanted, hurtful behavior that causes the individual to feel isolated, abused, or unworthy. It is the use of force, threat, or coercion to abuse, intimidate, or aggressively impose domination over others. It is any behavior that is unwanted and makes the individual feel isolated, left out or in danger. It rarely happens just once, and it is not limited to school-aged kids. Bullying takes place in the workplace as well.
Types of bullying:
-Verbal: Name calling, teasing, taunting, whispering, rumors, gossiping, laughing, making fun of, threatening, picking on.
-Physical: Hitting, punching, shoving, spitting on, fighting, leaving someone out on purpose, taking and breaking other’s things.
-Cyberbullying: Texting, using social media such as Facebook, Myspace, Twitter, Instagram, chat rooms. This one has been tremendously gaining strength in the last couple of years, as kids think they can hide behind the computer and bully from home.
What to do if your child is being bullied:
Make sure they know that it is not their fault. Find out who is doing the bullying, and what kind it is (verbal, physical, cyberbullying.) How long has it been going on, and where does it take place (in the classroom, gym class, playground, on the bus.) Ask if any teachers or adults have witnessed it and if anything was done about it, or how your child responded to it. Talk to a school principal or counselor. Mention to them what has been going on, how long it’s been happening, and how it’s making your child feel. Ask if they have a school policy for bullying. If this doesn’t work, go directly to your school’s district administration. Don’t ever be afraid to go as high up the ladder as needed.
Suicide is the second leading cause of death in youth, according to the CDC. For every ONE suicide, there are at least 100 attempts.
1 in every 4 kids are bullied every single day.
160,000 kids stay home on any given school day because they are afraid of going to school and being bullied.
80% of verbal bullying will end up in a physical fight.
1/3 of students said they heard another student threaten to kill someone.
Every 7 minutes a child is being bullied. Adult intervention is 4%, peer intervention is 11%, and absolutely no intervention at all is 85%. This is needs to change.
97% of middle school kids are being cyberbullied online.
58% have not told their parents or an adult about something that has been done to them.
How many more statistics do we need before we realize a change needs to happen? Enough is enough. Let’s change lives. Let’s save lives.